Month: January 2017

“The more you know yourself, the less judgemental you become”
― Aniekee Tochukwu Ezekiel

I’m not one to make New Years resolutions. Evaluating myself is a continual process throughout the year. And one thing I’ve been working at for a while is to be less judgmental and to take into account  the perspective and life experiences of other people. The size and style of your shoes do not match my size or tastes. That’s what makes us unique individuals. I remind myself all the time “Mind my own business”. Medelling and gossip in my opinion cause more bad feelings between family and friends than any thing else I can think of. If someone asks for my thoughts or opinion only then will I offer them. Otherwise I am going to shut up and mind my own business. I need to focus on my own issues and problems, there’s plenty of them to keep me busy for a lifetime.

Gossip is petty all it does is make me look pathetic and jealous – there is so much more to myself than to engage in gossip

I start off by asking myself, am I willing to say or ask something in front of the person in the discussion and why am I even considering what I am comtemplating saying to others about a person. Is what I’m about to say merely to elevate my stature in front of others? If I am happy and content with my own life then why should I care what’s going on in someone elses life.

1. I need to think more before I say something – I’ve embarassed myself enough and hurt others with a quick thoughtless comment.
2. I need to think more of how I would feel if people meddle in my affairs.
3. What people do in their own lives that does not affect me is not my business (this is worth repeating over and over).
4. Unless asked I keep my “advice” to myself. Your business is none of my business.
5. As stated above I don’t wear the shoes of others and I don’t know the whole story.
6. Let Donald Trump do all the dissing on Twitter – I have much more rewarding things in my life to work at.

This is a something in my life that I have to work at all the time and I have to slap myself all the time to stay the course.

We’ve all been alone and had a thought, something we wanted to share with others thinking the idea/thought would hold in our memories and we’d have time to get to it later and write it down, but then we forget what it was that we wanted to share with others. Those are truely missed opportunities to share our thoughts, insights and the depth of our being and experiences with others much more intimate than a brief conversation. Putting our thoughts out there for others without the interuption and distraction of conversation allowing those in our lives to fully appreciate the soul of our being.

We’ve all read and listened to those who are more elloquant expressing an idea than ourselves. Does take away from our own insights and thoughts about something. No it does not, what we think and express is just as important as those gifted in being able to express themselves more elloquently or having a higher public stature than ourselves. We should never be embarassed or intimidated when we want to express ourselves and by all means we should record what we have to say for others to remember us by.